5 Steps to make your Negative Self-Talk work FOR you

Ginny Cutler, CPCC, LMFT
9 min readDec 30, 2019

Don’t let limiting language drive your destiny

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Even though access to ever increasing knowledge, information and any ‘how to’ you could want is only fingertips away, many people are enduring soul crushing periods of personal uncertainty and lack of clarity.

They are experiencing an inability to focus or stick to a plan or project. Or a personal sense of being stuck or not capable, not enough, or even unworthy. That would suck the vitality, inspiration and enthusiasm out of anyone.

So, what is the problem? Well, we are. More specifically the negative voice in our head. The thoughts that make up our self-talk.

Thought is how the human being creates.

Everything that has ever come into existence began with a thought. A thought that we believe in creates powerfully.

If we believe in what’s possible for us, that we are worthy and deserving of happiness, we will take action in a way that creates that. And if we believe a negative thought, it has the power to shut us down. That belief will sabotage our own potential.

Don’t be a VICTIM of negative self talk — remember YOU are listening.

Bob Proctor

Get this. Our negative thoughts aren’t ours. We came into this world a clean slate. Those thoughts came from the murmurings, teachings, ideas and beliefs of others, that we absorbed as we developed. Our brain culled them from our families, the people around us, and the environments and institutions we grew up in. Our experience was filtered through them. What a set up.

We are who we are, what we are and where we are in our lives because of what was presented to us, what we heard and took on as true. These thoughts are what we repeat to ourselves. What begins to define us.

Negative thoughts become our negative beliefs. These beliefs function as our predictable frame of reference. That frame of reference influences our perception, which curates our stream of thought accordingly. Those thoughts generate the chemistry of for the feelings we experience. They drive our behavioral responses. … and by the way, how others respond…



Ginny Cutler, CPCC, LMFT

Transpersonal Coach, creator of LifeMap - The journey from Self Awareness to Transformation. www.ginnycutler.com